Who does more of the housework in your home?

Since my wife is on disability, I do a majority around the house...and I don't mind a bit.

Actually, we have two teenagers and we split the work between the four of us. We find spending an hour or two on the weekend is sufficient to get everything done. We all do our own laundry. I do the majority of cooking but my husband and kids will fend for themselves on nights that I have too much homework (I'm finishing my degree). I find buying foods that each of them likes, that they can fix with only a little effort, allows me to cook about four days a week with them fending the other three. It works for us.

My husband and I have a nice balance. He does the dishes, trash, general picking up of things and washes clothes. I do the bathroom, cook, grocery shop, fold laundry, dust. Thankfully we like doing the chores that the other person does not. When it comes to big projects we work together on them, or we each pick a project that reflects our housekeeping preferences. For example, I will go through our daughters clothes and pack the ones that are too small, and my husband will organize the garage.

I am a single mother of 4 and from the beginning I have worked 40 hours or more a week come home cook a good balanced meal, clean up and help with home work. Baths and clothes laid out for the next. Then the house hold chores. The reason for lack of help it was womans work he worked 40 hours a week. Lack of help with the children...he does better with older kids. This is why I am single and loving every minute of it. The children,23, 21,19 and 16 have very little time for him because he never had time for them. I support them in everything.

I work fulltime and part time jobs and I do 90% of all chores in our house. I have always done the cleaning on Sundays while he watches whatever race, hunting or something on TV ! Oh, he will move if I ask but not without a huff....He does mow the lawn but I also will do that as well. I have to leave notes if I want anything little done at house like dishes or wise I am told the reason he don't do anything is cause it won't be right...What a copout lol !!!

I do all the work and he doesnt get the right to complain! If the dishes didnt get done, then I will do it in the morning! The second that he starts to complain is the second that I tell him he can get off the couch and do it himself.

This is a battle that I choose not to fight anymore :) Pick your battles people! I am over asking him to help out. I take my time when I want it and he understands that. The chores get done and everyone is happy!!

I do everything except the yardwork. We have 3 children, I help them with homework, take them to the doctors, go to parent workshops and meetings. He gets home from work and goes to his mancave and waits to be served his food and beverage like he is royalty or something. He does nothing. And the worst part is, I am not appreciated.

My husband is the stay at home father and does a wonderful job of taking care of the kids and the home while I am at work. I also do my part of the major cleaning every 2 weeks - places he does not do. (lol) We work together

My wife works double shifts 3pm-7am, so I pick up the slack at home: cook, clean, laundry, yard work, you name it, I'm the one. I've been doing this for almost three years due to no work in my area. She is the best thing to have happened to me, so she deserves this. I have also helped her kids out the best I can, and now her youngest is in college, with more help from me than her ex!

My husband does the bare minimum he can get away with. It is a battle that has been going on for 12 years and it is the biggest source of stress in my life. I really feel like I am going to lose my mind. I work on my feet all day and he has a desk job. I come home and work on my feet for 4 to 5 more hours before I go to bed and he jokes the whole night. Getting him to help with housework is like pulling teeth on a daily basis. He is an only child and his mother has always taken care of all the housework and I believe that is what he expected out of me. I thought it was just me until I saw this topic on the Today Show. Thank you for exposing this struggle to the world. Now, how so we fix it to save a marriage? I have tried everything I know to do short of nagging him to death.

Most homes are managed by single parents these days (mostly the kids are still with the mom), so this study is not a true reflection of whats happening in this country. Its nice and fuzzy to imagine men and women sharing the burden, but it is not at all a reality of our culture today. WAY more couples divorce than stay together or never get married at all. How about do a study, report, and focus group on single moms (or dads)? Then re-calculate the statistics and do a TRUE report. Those of you who have a partner to do anything are the lucky FEW, so stop complaining and be thankful!

I used to work 12-hour shifts (7pm-7am) at a factory fri,sat,and sunday. I would come home from work and do family things like outings,church,ect. and then get some sleep. On Monday I would clean the whole house ,do laundry and groceries. During the week I cooked meals ,took care of the kids(appts, classes or if they were sick- be Dr.Mom). My spouse worked a desk job. Then he was sent to Iraq and was gone for 18 months. I had to quit my job to be home with the kids and have not got back to work yet,due to no jobs. Since coming back, he went back to work for the same company.Remember I'm not working and I feel as though he has resentment towards me for that and it's not my fault Uncle Sam called. So now I take one child to school,do the house cleaning,laundry,groceries,all the yard work(mowing edging planting ,trimming of bushes,cleaning gutters,ect.),picking up 2 kids from school(different schools due to 1 being an ESE child, medical appts twice every week(pt and speech therapy),make sure the homework gets done,cook and clean up(I only have to do dishes about 80% of the time).I'm also supposed to have enough energy to do my duty.He comes home tells the kids to be quiet,eats dinner ,nods off and gets up in time to put the kids to bed. Yes,Yes and Yes I think there should be a tax credit we work hard. Being a mom is a full-time job and greatly undervalued !!

We have 2 teenage sons. My wife and I do most of the house work and try to get the kids to clean up after themselves. Anyone with teens knows that they rarely follow through with their chores and someone has to finish it, usually the parent.

My husband doesn't do much around the house. Occasionally dishes and mow the lawn. Sleep, drink booze is about the extent of it. Not sure why they think the woman has to always be the responsible one. I get to bed at a decent hour, get up with the kids, clean, cook, laundry, make appointments, plan birthday parties, get everything ready, make sure everyone gets to functions on time etc. I have had enough. I thought marriage was a joint effort.   

Well probably the mom as men are no longer a part of the family unit. We have a 40% single woman birth rate, a 50% divorce rate. 70% of which are initiated by women.

Now if you mean intact families, it is women who mow the lawn, fix things around the house, build fences, install fixtures and electrical, car matinence, shovel snow from the walk way etc etc etc etc.....right???

I don't know if rephrasing the question might elicit different poll numbers. When I hear "household chores", laundry, dishes, cleaning automatically come to mind. I do a lot work outside while my wife is working inside. We both work full time outside the house, so we split the household responsibilities. I feel for the women who have to do the vast majority of the housework, but its not that way in every household (and I sort of resent the implication/generalizations that most men don't contribute/help in the household). In our house, it is definitely a joint effort (even if we have different tasks that we primarily handle).

I prepare about 1/2 the meals, pre-rinse diapers (we don't use disposables since they take 500 years to biodegrade in the dump), I get the kids ready for daycare/school, pick them up from daycare/school about 1/2 the time, give the kids all their baths, clean up after dinner (even the dinners I made), change 95% of the baby's diapers, get the kids ready for bed (jammies on, brush teeth, etc), pick up toys when they're laying around, play with and read to the kids, get up early with the kids on the weekends so my wife can sleep late, among other things. I don't do the majority of the grocery shopping (by $ amount), but do make about 3/4 the trips (mostly for little things my wife needs at the last minute). I empty all the trash cans and put new liners in and take the garbage out, clean the sinks and showers, etc. I also "fix" whatever is broken in the house and do any "heavy lifting" tasks.

My wife pretty much does all the laundry (but I will help fold). We both empty & re-fill the dishwasher about 1/2 the time. I will sweep the floors and she will mop them. She does most of the clothes shopping for the kids (but I will tag along/assist most of the time unless she shops online). She pays the small bills (utilities, credit cards, etc) and I pay the large bills (mortgage, insurance, etc). She plans most of the parties, events and keeps track of appointments. We both take the kids to their doctor's appointments, and stay home with sick kids, etc about 50/50 so that no one person has to take too much time off work.

This is sad. I've never seen so many unhappy wives. Men need to have a wake up call. They need to remember the energy they felt when they were dating their wife. They can get it back. I started courting my wife almost three years ago. Yes, I started looking for taking away the stresses of her life. When guys date a girl they want to always make them comfortable, open doors for them, pull out chairs for them, etc. When they get married, they stop. It is crazy. So I made a decision to start making her life a little easier. She gets breakfast in bed, everyday. I do the laundry. I do the cooking. I do the cleaning. We have six kids, so there is always lots to do. Is it crazy still? Yes. Is she still stressed and tired? Yes. But our relationship has improved and she doesn't resent me like many wives resent their husbands. Get busy guys and start courting your wife again. You won't regret it, she might even want to go out on a date with you.

I have two small children,I work 40 a week and do all of the cleaning,cooking and taking care of our children.He handles most of the outside work...But a little help would be nice!

According to my husband he does most of it. He takes out the trash, I do everything else - laundry, cooking, dishes, vacuuming (he actually tried that last month and swore my vacuum was broken, I think he mistook the button to allow adjusting the angle for the on button). He buys his vitamins (he takes about 20 daily) and more fruit for his fruit salads than can be eaten. I buy the rest of the groceries and clean the spoiled fruit out of the fridge. He does do the litter box for the cat, because that was susposed to be our daughter's job and I told her to do it or find another home for the cat. It was a stray kitten she took in. When she kept forgetting and I threatened to put an ad in the paper if i ever had to yet again, he suddenly started doing it. Husband has told me to back off for years everytime I try to get her to do anything, says it is my job. He never interfered with the older kids doing chores and they all grew up pretty self-sufficient, but I fear for the youngest. (Sweet kid, good grades, part-time job, but rarely does anything at home without a major fight. My one hope is that she seems to know how to work hard at her job and school, so maybe if she honestly has no one else to do cook or clean she will.) I either do the yard work or hire it done, take the cars to the mechanic for maintenance, pay the bills (but he earns more as I am never allowed to forget), and work outside the home. But he tells plenty of people (friends, relatives, neighbors) that all I do is lay around the house and he does it all, cleaning, groceries, etc. Sometimes to people who know I work, he implies that I am doing volunteer work all day by saying I should stay home more as I "earn nothing." I really don't mind doing almost everything as much as I mind being put down and lied about. My mother was a fulltime homemaker, but my dad treated her like a queen and he wasn't above pitching in when he saw a need.