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After admitting to an affair with a production assistant, Steve Phillips was fired from ESPN and his wife left him. Now, Phillips has completed a treatment program for his sex addiction, and hopes to get his family back.

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48.1%
Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.
1,212 votes
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No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.
1,079 votes
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I'm not sure.
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I'm not sure.

It is hard for me to understand how someone can't control sex. I have never been addicted to anything so it is not something I get.

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  • 1 vote
 - jamib
 - 11:03 am EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

Sexual satisfaction is as addictive as food and just as neccessary for a healthy life. Marriage as a sex monopoly dosen't work.

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     - 12:13 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

    no because my ex used this as an excuse to cheat (even when i was pregnant with our now 2yr old daughter)

    {"commentId":10312929,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"mommy2be"}
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     - 12:35 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

    I'm sick and tired of people behaving badly and blaming it on something. This man has ruined the lives of 5 people.

    {"commentId":10313107,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"donnalange"}
    • 1 vote
     - 12:42 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

    The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as "engaging in persistent and escalating patterns o

    {"commentId":10313563,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"martylg"}
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     - martylg
     - 12:59 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

    People can be addicted to anything... I think some people use it as an excuse, but I think it's a real problem for some.

    {"commentId":10314029,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"lizfits"}
    • 1 vote
     - 1:15 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

    The term has great potential for overuse, i.e. as an excuse for sexual adventurism. But for some I think it is a deep seated psych issue.

    {"commentId":10314404,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"DebraB"}
    • 1 vote
     - 1:27 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
    Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

    It's an addiction, but I believe it can be controlled. It's the type of thing that should be controlled with mind over matter.

    {"commentId":10317207,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"evie3"}
       - evie3
       - 3:10 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
      No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

      I personally wish I could get it every night and a few times a day. However it is just not possible. So I just think about it often

      {"commentId":10318196,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"will-1436186"}
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       - 3:48 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
      I'm not sure.

      Free will is the blessing and a curse. A person is not born with these vices they are developed and thusly can be controlled.. if you desir

      {"commentId":10318299,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"chaney79"}
         - 3:52 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
        No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

        The people that say they have a sex addiction are the same people that have no willpower, and are probably addicted to something else

        {"commentId":10318655,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"hahaiwrite"}
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         - 4:06 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
        Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

        Let's ask David Letterman.
        Hey Dave, how're the employee relations going, fuc*ed any of them today?

        {"commentId":10321020,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"captain-marvelous"}
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         - 5:41 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
        No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

        It seems any immoral behavior is turned into some kind of "disease" these days.

        {"commentId":10321405,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"BelindaK"}
           - 6:00 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
          Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

          If it wasn't so affecting, the human race would die off. The function of society is to teach responsibility when it comes to sex.

          {"commentId":10321960,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"jym-allyn"}
             - 6:29 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
            No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

            Misuses of the term "addiction" really piss me off, because it trivializes the term for real physical dependencies (drugs, alcohol)

            {"commentId":10322033,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"kinglerxst"}
               - 6:34 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
              Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

              Divorced my hubby for the same reason--prostitutes, porn--tried, but he's addicted.

              {"commentId":10322079,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"gomocs5"}
                 - gomocs5
                 - 6:36 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
                No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

                Self control is the word. If there's an addiction, why hasn't he been charged for rape yet.

                {"commentId":10322939,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"tony-morris"}
                   - 7:23 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
                  Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

                  Many people depend on different things to help them handle everyday "stress", some, because of their need, go to far!

                  {"commentId":10322940,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"JohnAFossler"}
                     - 7:23 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
                    No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

                    There is no standard rule of sex drive that everyone naturally conforms to. Is life addicted to living? God, get a life.

                    {"commentId":10326481,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"anothvoice"}
                       - 11:18 pm EDT on Tue Oct 27, 2009
                      I'm not sure.

                      I aint never had TOOOOOOOOO Much Fun

                      {"commentId":10513943,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"mycomments1"}
                         - 12:48 am EST on Fri Nov 6, 2009
                        No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

                        It's never my fault, it's a desease...give me a break. This guy's appearance on today is nothing but a public relations gimmick!!!

                        {"commentId":12250964,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"aboveaveragejoe"}
                           - 11:36 am EST on Mon Feb 8, 2010
                          Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

                          I am recovering in AA 31 yr. and love addiction 12 yr. Surviving early sex abuse can cause addcitions later. No excuses, changes are neede

                          {"commentId":12252164,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"dand1212"}
                             - 12:27 pm EST on Mon Feb 8, 2010
                            Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

                            Yes, I became aware of this very real addiction thru a friend's problem. DON'T JUDGE what you don't understand, PLEASE!

                            {"commentId":12253555,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"roundgrandma"}
                               - 1:30 pm EST on Mon Feb 8, 2010
                              Yes. It's a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs.

                              Any obessive/compulsive behavior is an attempt to cope with life. Using sex, drugs, shopping, etc., is the unhealthy way and becomes a habi

                              {"commentId":12253856,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"westbrook8936"}
                                 - 1:45 pm EST on Mon Feb 8, 2010
                                No. It's an excuse for people to cheat.

                                If it truly is an addiction as you say, then do the decent thing and declare yourself a lifelong bachelor or bachelorette!

                                {"commentId":12257842,"threadId":"710629","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"kuskus"}
                                   - kuskus
                                   - 4:21 pm EST on Mon Feb 8, 2010

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                                  {"commentId":10311972,"authorDomain":"johnkick"}

                                  Addictive personalities can be addicted to anything: alcohol, sex, working, jogging, etc...

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                                  Reply#1 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 12:04 PM EDT
                                  {"commentId":10317238,"authorDomain":"evie3"}

                                  I agree 100%.

                                  {"commentId":10317238,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"evie3"}
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                                  #1.1 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:11 PM EDT
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                                  {"commentId":10313587,"authorDomain":"martylg"}

                                  The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.”

                                  {"commentId":10313587,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"martylg"}
                                    Reply#2 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 1:00 PM EDT
                                    {"commentId":10316098,"authorDomain":"JessNOLEfsu"}

                                    It is hard for me to imagine that someone could be addicted to something like sex unless there is a trigger in their brain that is causing a consequence if they don't have sex. For alcoholics, it's a hangover...for drug addicts, its the after effects that they are trying to avoid by staying on the drug. What is happening to supposed "sex addicts" when they stop having sex? Are they just extremely horny all the time? Maybe so...but isn't that what masterbation is for? I'm not sure if I can believe this, and it sounds like an excuse.

                                    {"commentId":10316098,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"JessNOLEfsu"}
                                      Reply#3 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 2:29 PM EDT
                                      {"commentId":10321349,"authorDomain":"granma2"}

                                      I believe it is an addiction, but as in any other addiction there are different degrees of it. Getting down to it are we not all sex addicts to some degree??Everyone I know likes sex...including me and I am 71 yrs. old and my boyfriend the same., and we both love sex!!

                                      {"commentId":10321349,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"granma2"}
                                        #3.1 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:57 PM EDT
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                                        {"commentId":10317440,"authorDomain":"rlporath"}

                                        Whereas, I thought that it was true, and that my husband had it, according to all the websites and books on it, 6 months later, he all of the sudden doesn't love me anymore, making me think that it's really not true.....

                                        {"commentId":10317440,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"rlporath"}
                                          Reply#4 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:20 PM EDT
                                          {"commentId":10318340,"authorDomain":"aholcomb93449"}

                                          Just because someone finds an addiction repulsive doesn't mean that its not real. All addictions are used to medicate against pain, whether alcohol, food or work. People dodge pain and hurt different ways, some hide playing video games or watching movies, but make no mistake about it, its very real. Its far more people using sex as an escape than many of us would like to believe.

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                                            Reply#5 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:54 PM EDT
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                                            {"commentId":10318529,"authorDomain":"chaney79"}

                                            Free will is both a blessing and a curse. We are not born with these vices controlling us they are developed and nurtured by our desires and levels of morality and self control. We are not born murderer's or alcholics or thieves etc. we choose to participate in these activities for various reasons, but we are not forced to, we choose to. It is dangerous when we start medically labeling selfishness and irresponsibility because those are the only names which they should go by. Not addicts or ....... My point is that we are lowering the bar so far for accountability that soon none will exist.

                                            {"commentId":10318529,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"chaney79"}
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                                            Reply#6 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 4:02 PM EDT
                                            {"commentId":10319314,"authorDomain":"philbertonite"}

                                            oh,give me a break!! sex addict my ass. now if every chick i meet goes to bed with me then perhaps i could 'maybe' consider myself a sex addict.ha!! only in my dreams.i find women are very defensive today vs 20 yrs. ago.what a drag..

                                            {"commentId":10319314,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"philbertonite"}
                                              Reply#7 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 4:32 PM EDT
                                              {"commentId":10319709,"authorDomain":"forest5"}

                                              lead me to her

                                              {"commentId":10319709,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"forest5"}
                                                Reply#8 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 4:48 PM EDT
                                                {"commentId":10320200,"authorDomain":"rcolleen1006"}

                                                After being married as long as the Phillip's have been his wife would not be divorcing him over wanting sex if he came home to feed his addiction. Having been married a long time myself I would be the happiest woman alive if my husband had a sex addiction and the last thing I would be doing is divorcing him. This is not the first time for Steve it was just the scariest of affairs his family had to endure with a crazy woman playing out "War of the Roses" at their home.

                                                {"commentId":10320200,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"rcolleen1006"}
                                                  Reply#9 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:06 PM EDT
                                                  {"commentId":10320281,"authorDomain":"moyafoyah"}

                                                  Any activity that stimulates production of endorphins has the potential to addict. Sex is the ORIGINAL endorphin stimulator!

                                                  {"commentId":10320281,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"moyafoyah"}
                                                    Reply#10 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:09 PM EDT
                                                    {"commentId":10320421,"authorDomain":"rvcrvcrvc2"}

                                                    It was documented in the case of a high-profile pedofile who kidnapped, raped and killed a young girl, that he required a release of his sexual tensions 3 times a day. I'm not sure that is the same as being addicted to sex, but a super-enhanced sex drive would biologically require release, I would think.

                                                    {"commentId":10320421,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"rvcrvcrvc2"}
                                                      Reply#11 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:14 PM EDT
                                                      {"commentId":10321114,"authorDomain":"georgeiafrate"}

                                                      People need prayer in their lives!

                                                      {"commentId":10321114,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"georgeiafrate"}
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                                                      Reply#12 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 5:46 PM EDT
                                                      {"commentId":10321453,"authorDomain":"kareem-in-my-coffee"}

                                                      Not everyone does.

                                                      People need to live an honest life and do good deeds. Prayer does not necessarily have anything to do with that. Different spokes for different folks. Freedom of choice and all that stuff.

                                                      {"commentId":10321453,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"kareem-in-my-coffee"}
                                                        #12.1 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:02 PM EDT
                                                        {"commentId":10324403,"authorDomain":"nwnative"}

                                                        People need common sense and awareness.

                                                        {"commentId":10324403,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"nwnative"}
                                                          #12.2 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 8:54 PM EDT
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                                                          {"commentId":10321955,"authorDomain":"johnjd69"}

                                                          If you are deprived of one of your drives, you tend to make it up with another. It is well known (by experiment) that if you do not drink (not alcohol) enough, your cravings will try to make up the difference by eating. Deficits are compelled to be filled by powerful physical and mental forces. This will explain why the person above can not explain it to themself in terms of operant behavior.

                                                          {"commentId":10321955,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"johnjd69"}
                                                            Reply#13 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:29 PM EDT
                                                            {"commentId":10322008,"authorDomain":"jym-allyn"}

                                                            I got married so that I could have sex any time I wanted it. Now I have sex any time she wants it.

                                                            {"commentId":10322008,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"jym-allyn"}
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                                                            Reply#14 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:32 PM EDT
                                                            {"commentId":10322076,"authorDomain":"johnjd69"}

                                                            Unnatural constraints on innate behavior leads to perversion. If you squeeze the tooth paste with the cap on you can not complain when it comes out in weird places.

                                                            {"commentId":10322076,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"johnjd69"}
                                                              Reply#15 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:36 PM EDT
                                                              {"commentId":10322314,"authorDomain":"monger-1"}

                                                              Don't poll for an answer - do the litmus test:

                                                              Put the male addict in a room full of ugly, old, naked broads. If he gets aroused, it is addiction. If he does not, then draw your own conclusion

                                                              {"commentId":10322314,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"monger-1"}
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                                                              Reply#16 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:49 PM EDT
                                                              {"commentId":10322542,"authorDomain":"johnjd69"}

                                                              "Ugly, old, broads"? Are you showing us something about yourself? People repeat behavior under similar circumstances. An average male has trouble completing four acts. Most males can not help lacking interest after three. The forth becomes real work. If a male seems interested after four complete acts, I would call that a sign.

                                                              {"commentId":10322542,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"johnjd69"}
                                                                Reply#17 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 7:02 PM EDT
                                                                {"commentId":10323051,"authorDomain":"tony-morris"}

                                                                Steve Philips wife is the loser here. For another woman to manipulate her so easily into giving up her family shows that her immediate goals are same as his. She probably has her boy friend on the side and wants to stop hiding. Go girl.

                                                                {"commentId":10323051,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"tony-morris"}
                                                                  Reply#18 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 7:29 PM EDT
                                                                  {"commentId":10324380,"authorDomain":"nwnative"}

                                                                  I don't believe it is an addiction. It is a weakness. It's your decision to control it or not.

                                                                  {"commentId":10324380,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"nwnative"}
                                                                    Reply#19 - Tue Oct 27, 2009 8:53 PM EDT
                                                                    {"commentId":10361649,"authorDomain":"its-all-over"}

                                                                    An addiction? Get real! I totally agree with the posters who think it's Bull!@#$ -- it's an excuse to do whatever the hell you want and not be held responsible.... "The naked ladies made me do it!"

                                                                    {"commentId":10361649,"threadId":"710661","contentId":"3430270","authorDomain":"its-all-over"}
                                                                      Reply#20 - Thu Oct 29, 2009 3:52 PM EDT
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