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Do the men in your life listen to you?

Psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig says the differences between male and female brains could be one reason that men and women have difficulty communicating. Do you find that men have trouble listening to you?

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Yes.

Most of the time, anyway, unless I start rambling or become passionate on a subject he could care less for, then he may tune me out shortly

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    #1
     - Hot-in-Miami
     - 1:18 pm EDT on Wed Oct 28, 2009
    Not really.

    I am not trying to complain, but why is it even titled this way? Is this soft male bashing? Why not say Does your spouse listen to you?

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      #2
       - Howard -1437620
       - 1:23 pm EDT on Wed Oct 28, 2009
      Not really.

      as long as it does not get to complicated men are not as complicated as the good dr says. tell him to watch a game and tune out with us

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        #3
         - bisenboy
         - 1:32 pm EDT on Wed Oct 28, 2009
        Yes.

        The men in my life listen to me when I speak to them in their language.

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          #4
           - Buffy-851618
           - 3:29 pm EDT on Wed Oct 28, 2009
          Yes.

          My husband is the best listener I know!

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            #5
             - Aunt of 8
             - 1:29 am EDT on Thu Oct 29, 2009
            Yes.

            If its not something he wants to hear he shuts down. Its a case of"You can't tell me what to do"

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            #6
             - beth-1438963
             - 6:37 am EDT on Thu Oct 29, 2009
            Yes.

            If my husband is watching tv he doesn't hear a thing. I try to only talk during commercials. Sometimes he listens and we goo conversations.

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              #7
               - jamib
               - 12:12 pm EDT on Thu Oct 29, 2009
              Not really.

              My husband hears the words but doesn't seem to process them.

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                #8
                 - z1r2p3
                 - 12:35 pm EDT on Thu Oct 29, 2009
                Yes.

                It's like talking to a WALL

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                  #9
                   - AliannaS.
                   - 4:44 pm EDT on Thu Oct 29, 2009
                  Not really.

                  No, he does not listen, until he is relaxed. He listens when ever he feels like it, it seems! But he may respond emotionally behind my back

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                    #10
                     - Stephanie P Smith
                     - 12:36 pm EDT on Sat Oct 31, 2009
                    Not really.

                    Sure they ask for my advice but they never follow it!

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                      #11
                       - Rhiannon-1117064
                       - 2:06 pm EST on Mon Nov 2, 2009
                      Not really.

                      I know my husband hears me he just doesn't respond! It drives me crazy!!

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                        #12
                         - LDRWeber
                         - 1:06 am EST on Fri Nov 6, 2009
                        Yes.

                        I agree with many of the men - get to the point please! My 5Y BF gets a 10+ for listening. I may also start with, "This is important...."

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                          #13
                           - charliegirl-1470887
                           - 6:12 pm EST on Mon Nov 16, 2009

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                          bisenboy

                          That was a little insensitve to me for the good dr. after all he went to college look at the stat a stat is a stat and we move on to the next one ask the right question instead of does this dress make me look fat, how about do I look hot in this dress ask the right question

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                            Reply#1 - Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:53 PM EDT
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                            My spouse is the only male that does NOT listen to me...even when I give a very short and specific answer to a question (i.e. yes/no).......married 21 years and has NO idea my favorite flower, or where I like to eat, or what, or if I need help getting heavy items moved, favorite color, what I like to do as a hobby, etc.. Totally no clue.

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                              Reply#2 - Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:53 PM EDT
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                              jo owens murray

                              Why would you ask your husband to take out the trash if you no he is not going to do it your way? Are you looking for an argument, just take it out. For jokes I have been Reading a book from the 50's and it looks like some women need to read it now. As the book said women get out of your well.

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                                Reply#3 - Thu Oct 29, 2009 12:14 PM EDT
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                                PearlySue

                                Sorry, guys, it's soooooo true. Gals, try this: Sit or stand in front of your man, sweetly lower the newspaper or book or mute the tv (only during a commercial) Wait for the "glaze" to go away. Have your words ready and succinct . If you really want him to remember something, show it to him in a book or newspaper. Men are more likely to remember what they read, 'cause someone besides wife/significant other said/wrote it. Always say his name first. Then speak. Once the "glaze" returns, you're done. Never send him to the store to get a specific item for you. Go get it yourself. Buy yourself presents with his credit card/money. He'll be glad you're happy with your gift. Good luck. Married 41 years.

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                                  Reply#5 - Sat Oct 31, 2009 7:34 AM EDT
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                                  LDRWeber

                                  I will ask my husband a question, and I know he hears me, and won't get an answer from him until I say "huh?" His 10 year old is the same way. It drives me completely insane. Thanks and take care everyone!

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                                    Reply#6 - Fri Nov 6, 2009 1:13 AM EST
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