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Especially not one of those makeup ones. What parents do to this kids is creepy and they should not live vicariously. Get counseling folks
My daughter has done them for years. It has taught her how to present herself in public, and humanitarian issues working for her platform!
My girl won most talented,but I decided that too much focus is on looks. Self esteem comes from the inside not waiting on judges' comments.
Absolulutely not! There is too much emphasis on so-called "beauty" as it is. I've suffered from low self esteem all my life as a result.
Absolutely NOT! She is entitled to having a childhood, not being forced to grow up and wearing as much makeup at age 5 as a prostitute does
Two words.... Carrie Prejean.. IE The oh so nice pageant girl from celebrity drug AND sex rehab! Gives girls a false sense of themselves.
NO. Some pageants ran well can build confidence & professional skills for adults but kids should be kids & learn these things from parents.
i did once and i changed my mind. i did not like the way the girls had to be made up to impress the judges!
Usually women that have no chance of beauty themselves subject their daughters looks to the scrutiny of others. Get your own life, moms!
I'm sure there is some good from them, but so many kids & people in general have HUGE self esteem issues, I think this may only add to them
I don't think it's completely wrong, it should have limits. The makeup, wardrobe, etc is way too much. It's too much stress for a child.
I would allow my daughter to join beauty pageants, as long as it is clean, and would only showcase talents and wit.
But, I will say, too many stage-mothers do take the fun out of it for the child--if you have any doubts, watch "Little Miss Perfect" on TLC
No, I would never allow my child to participate in pageants. I don't agree with the message(s) it puts out there for our daughters. Hek
I've seen girls who really enjoyed their life in pageants. I would screen contests and judges, however. There are some not fit to judge.
My daughters do pageants yearly that are based on personality/confidence - no makeup allowed. No beauty pageants though!
There are lots of ways to boost self esteem -theater, dance, speech/debate, community service - w/o being paraded in front of judges.
Yes! A lot of pageants are about girls being spokespersons and role models, so a great deal of attention is focused on intelligence and verbal communication skills. These are skills that I polished during my pageants years that have helped me ace job interviews, and become a well rounded, confident woman.
#1 - Fri Jan 29, 2010 4:06 PM ESTFrom what I've seen, only the freakazoid moms who have no self-worth use their children to satisfy their sense of worth. Those moms need extensive counseling that probably wouldn't work anyway, they're so gone.
#2 - Sun Jan 31, 2010 8:53 AM ESTI don't care to speculate on individuals' reasons for choosing to participate in such activities. However, it's been my family's experience that long-term consideration be carefully weighed prior to making a decision.
Judges for my county's annual fair beauty pageant weren't shy in their recruitment, using the lure of a $1,000 college scholarship as a come-on. My family was approached several times at various public locations whenever traveling with our baby girl.
My husband and I discussed the matter a few times, but we never really had any intention of entering our daughter. Still, we were curious, so we studied the pageant's entry rules. We were aghast to learn how easy it would be for a potential contestant to be entered every year. Once a child's age disqualifies them from a younger bracket, they simply advance to the next higher one. Logic would seem to dictate that this could easily perpetuate an unhealthy pattern.
Pageant prizes, public adulation, and other fleeting benefits seem to overshadow some glaring realities. There are monetary costs involved in pageant participation which aren't limited to entry fees. Public exposure of one's children- not just beauty pageants- can draw unwanted attention and associated risks. Parental behaviors which overtly promote aesthetics above education, ethics, mastering practical life skills, and more, are a gross disservice to the child.
#3 - Sun Jan 31, 2010 2:55 PM ESTI agree--sometimes it's just easier to let kids be kids. After all, they don't stay little for long. :)
not as a contestant. Only if some other thing she was DOING (dance, vocal, theatre) was part of the entertainment. Even then the ewww factor would be hard to take, but hey, it is their life.
#4 - Sun Jan 31, 2010 10:02 PM ESTDepends on the pageant, the rules, and the parents. Some pageants and rules are ok. It's the parents that scare me. Some parents are NUTS when they get their kid involved. They even had that reality show where they followed the lives of families whose kids were involved in pageants. Some parents freak out if the kid eats a little ice cream because they think they will get fat immediately. I feel bad for the kid if they want to quit and their mother gets furious at them. That is ridiculous.
#6 - Mon Feb 1, 2010 10:39 AM ESTI feel bad for the kid if they want to quit and their mother gets furious at them. That is ridiculous.
aint that the truth--
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I think that after age 16 a young girl could handle a beauty pageant and it might help to expand her confidence and self expression.